Resolving to Just Be More Awesome

In 2014 I resolve to…

Be a Better Blogger

  • More than posting regularly, I will be more creative in coming up with post and series ideas.
  • I will be more conversational with other bloggers.
  • I will tweak my blog design so it’s more appealing and appropriate for my blog, my audience and me.

Read More

  • I will keep the next few books in my reading list on hand, so I can quickly get to the next book once one is finished or if the first one isn’t going so well.
  • I will discover new and new-to-me authors.
  • I will include more diverse authors in my reading list. First up are black authors for February’s Experiencing Black History Through Literature month. (And, of course, Murakami!)

Write More Actively

  • I will write and possibly share one essay a month.
  • I will make at least a little time in my day for writing-fiction and essays.

OK. Now I need you all to keep me honest. Stay tuned for some awesomeness this year!

Do you have any goals or resolutions for the year?

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My Favorite Posts of 2013

As 2013 draws to a close, here’s a wrap up of my favorite posts from the last year. 

On Being Perfect, Part 2
from March 2, 2013

On Celebrity Fights: Taylor Swift, Tina Fey, Amy Poehler, Anne Hathaway and Amanda Seyfried
from March 10, 2013

In Defense of Libraries
from March 23, 2013

Gender Stereotyping on the Bookshelves | The 1000th Voice Blog

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gender Stereotyping on the Bookshelves
from March 26, 2013

The Work-Life Balance Debate
from March 29, 2013

A Little (or a lot) about Laura) | The 1000th Voice blog

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Little (or a lot) about Laura

On Dance Class & Teaching Self Esteem
from October 7, 2013

What Happens When TV Writers Understand Book Lovers
from December 20, 2013

Embracing the Best of the Holidays

This post originally appeared November 8, 2011.

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It seems that each holiday season is always more stressful than the previous year. I put too much pressure on myself to make it memorable and better. It wasn’t always like that. As a child it was so relaxing because there weren’t any expectations. I’ve been thinking a lot about how to have a stress-free holiday as an adult.

When I think about my ideal celebration, I imagine a Cleaverish celebration. Snow falls softly all day long and a fire crackles by an immaculately decorated tree as my family and friends laugh, listen to Christmas music and sip cider.

But in reality, despite growing up in South Dakota, I don’t specifically recall a Christmas with snow. It’s not that we never had snow, we did (although there were a few dry Christmases). Snow just wasn’t the most memorable part, and we didn’t even have a fireplace.

What I do remember is spending a snow-less Christmas in Arizona with my grandparents. (It was my Grandpa Jack’s last.) I remember my cousins, brothers and I sorting all of our presents under the tree. (The next day they were mixed together again.)

The perfect Christmas of my daydreams isn’t the one my memories are made of; it’s something much better. It’s memories of my family, and if I remember that, my holidays will be less stressful. It’s not about lowering my expectations. It’s about realizing what makes me happy, and stress isn’t one of those things.

If you celebrate, I’m wishing you a merry Christmas. If you don’t, still have a great week. I plan to be back on Friday with a new post. 

What Happens When TV Writers Truly Understand Book Lovers

My daughter is a huge fan of My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. The show is actually pretty entertaining; I know this because I can admit that I do watch it with her frequently. As a book lover, I absolutely loved a recent new episode.

My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic | When TV Writers Truly Understand Book Lovers

In a previous episode, Rainbow Dash, an athletic pony, was injured, laid up in the hospital and bored. Her friend Twilight Sparkle (Claire’s favorite pony) recommended a book that was part of the Daring Do adventure series. Rainbow Dash resisted reading the book but eventually gave in to boredom and quickly became addicted to the book. But, then she had to wait for the next book in the series.

And that’s when we arrive at the new episode. Rainbow Dash and Twilight Sparkle can hardly wait for the new book to be published. As true fans of the series, they get into an intense argument about who is a bigger fan of the books. The argument culminates in Rainbow deciding to track down the author and assist her with any real life things that are preventing her from writing the book.

I don’t generally start a series before the second, third, final, etc. book is finished. Series books, aside from Harry Potter, are something that I don’t really get into until they’re THE must read books (e.g.,the Millenium series, The Hunger Games). But I can absolutely understand finishing one book and needing to read the next one.

And, you know what? I’m happy that a TV show my daughter is watching is making reading a book a cool thing.

What experiences have you had with the portrayal of book lovers on TV? Good, bad, otherwise…

On Dance Class & Teaching Self Esteem

I’ve been tired lately, still trying to kick the virus that took me down a couple weeks ago. No surprises here, but I’m still working on Dracula. Enjoying it, but falling asleep at the drop of a hat. Here’s a little something different today.

“We’re looking for a class that will help her grow, so she could dance professionally,” Nick said.  Nick, Claire and I were touring the dance studio and asking questions about their program. I’m sure it’s not the first time the question had been asked, so the Director was ready with a response about the quality of their classes, the music they use and the moves they teach. It seemed pretty satisfying to Nick.

But I was a little unsure. I mean I’m happy to have Claire in a quality studio with good music and no inappropriate dance moves. But what am I looking for in Claire’s dance education? Were we looking for a professional-level education? Why were we looking to put her in dance class?

I do want to provide Claire with as many enriching opportunities as possible, so she can explore things that interest her. I want her to develop self esteem. To learn what she enjoys and what she’s good at. And I don’t want to limit her future abilities because I didn’t encourage her early on.

Research has stated that children who are involved in sports (and I consider dance a sport) have higher self esteem. I don’t strictly believe that; I think that’s only the case with kids who are good at the sport. The others–the benchwarmers or, worse, the kids who often embarrassingly play equal time–are probably resentful, sad or thinking about something other than the activity they’re involved in.

Then there are the activities in which all participants get a trophy. I’ve always thought it would be better to not waste money on the trophies and make it cheaper for kids to participate. Building a kid’s self esteem is a worthwhile endeavor, except when you’re rewarding him or her for something he or she isn’t good at. What happens when that kid faces a real challenge? Does that cause a self esteem crisis?

As a child and teenager, I was a fast sprinter. I did build a lot of self esteem because I won a lot. I sometimes wonder if that esteem alone is what carries me through the day or what portion of it exists still to this day.  What I know I took from that experience is an understanding of my own strength and determination. And, I suppose, a certain amount of self esteem solely based on knowing what I was capable of when I put my mind to it.

Encouraging Claire to explore and find what she’s good at seems to be a great way to help her build self esteem and find out a little more about herself. Additionally, activities like dance teach some much needed coordination to preschoolers, including some of the skills she’ll be tested on before kindergarten. Hopefully she’ll also learn some good skills like determination and dedication. And, if she becomes a professional dancer, then I can be satisfied that Nick and I helped her get there by putting her in dance early.

What do you think about kids’ activities? Is it to help them build self esteem?

On Being Perfect, Part 2

read Part 1 here

The conference room was full. The oval table that filled the long room was itself full with a few extra people sitting in chairs lined around the perimeter. The meeting’s casual appearance belied its importance: It was my first meeting with a lot of my higher ranking coworkers. It was my chance to prove my commitment and my knowledge.

I had just started to use Cozi.com, and its free Android app the week prior, and I felt pretty smugly satisfied with my success at juggling multiple calendars. My meeting was scheduled until 5:00 but realistically could last until 5:30. Nick was all set to pick Claire up from daycare.

But then I saw a missed call on my phone and a new voicemail. I surreptitiously checked my missed calls. It was daycare. I snuck out of the room during a slower, less critical part of the meeting to check my voicemail. And my scheduling smugness evaporated. Claire was supposed to be picked up at 4:00. It was 4:10. I quickly arranged with Claire’s provider to leave her with her responsible teenage daughters.

After my meeting, I called Nick who confirmed that he’d picked Claire up. It seemed to be fine. Except I couldn’t stop worrying about it. It almost completely consumed my thoughts on the drive home.

I revealed here that I’m no stranger to worrying about my shortcomings. I feel like I’ve made progress since then, but I also feel like the harder I try to remember everything the more mistakes I’ve made. This week alone I’ve made two grocery store trips: on trip one I forgot a bag of purchased items and on trip two I replaced those items but forgot to buy the chicken nuggets that are crucial to my toddler’s diet.

Sometimes it’s easy to laugh off my forgetfulness. Claire and I laughed at my silliness after I’d confirmed that I’d left the items on my first trip (most likely in the shopping cart) and received a refund. Or I remind myself that I remember the really important things. My phone and/or my purse might be lost, but I have Claire! But other times I mentally beat myself up about it. (And, let me tell you, I’m very brutal mentally.)

So, how am I dealing with this (besides not well)? Notebooks, lists, sticky notes, Cozi.com and the Cozi app. I write things down as I recall them; I make lists. And, most of all, I enter events into my Cozi calendar ASAP because it’s not Cozi’s fault if I don’t enter an appointment.

Do you struggle with trying to be perfect? Anxiety? How do you cope and/or overcome?

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